The Little Things

Being married feels different. I didn't think it would. In fact, I told myself it wouldn't because the fact is, I tend to fear change. But it does. It feels different. It feels better. Closer, more natural, more intimate.
Hubs and I have a very (possibly too) comfortable relationship. I am 100% myself around him and vise versa. We've been best friends for a long time. I didn't think it was possible to feel any closer to him than I did just 2 months ago. But there we were, standing in the upstairs bathroom of our home about 2 days after returning from our honeymoon. He looked at me in the mirror as I brushed my teeth and said, "I feel a lot closer to you now." I remember a feeling swelling in me, because it was such a simple statement, but so completely identical to what I was experiencing.
I think society portrays this image of a happy marriage being all about sex and money and the giant house with the perfect children and well-trained dog. But all that glitters isn't gold. I think a happy marriage comes from the little things. The small, intimate moments that perhaps an outsider wouldn't think twice about, but to the couple, it strikes a chord.
Since we married two months ago I have been consistently amazed by hubs. To just share one example - I fractured my foot two weeks after the wedding, playing volleyball at a family party. Hubs came running and swept me off my feet (literally). Carrying me across the lawn and up the tall stairs to the porch where his mom was waiting with ice and ibuprofen. In the next few days he waited on me in every possible way. I was so touched by his care and concern. He got tears in his eyes when he recalled the expression on my face from across the volleyball net when I landed on my foot. My pain was his pain. We are one.
Hubs is a bit old fashioned in some ways. He really wants to support me. He wants to make enough money that I will have the choice of working or not working. (For the record, except when I am home for the first few years of my kid's lives, I will always work in some way or another.) But I appreciate how he wants to give me security. He's one of the good ones. And he's all mine.
In writing this post, I recognized that I'm not sure he knows how much he's impressed me since the wedding. I think I will take the time tonight to really tell him how much I appreciate him. My mom always said, husbands need to be trained. If you like what they do, they need plenty of positive reinforcement, so that they keep it up! ha. My mom and her advice.. that's a post for another day.